Sunday, May 10, 2009
Happy Mother's Day!
So I have this love/hate relationship with Mother's Day. As a young mother I enjoyed it. I enjoyed hearing about inspiring mothers and the importance of being a good mother. Now as I am in my 16th year of being a mother I find I dread the guilt that comes with the day. Who wants to celebrate their inadequacies? Nothing has made me feel more like a "loser" than being a mom. Don't get me wrong it's not the job, it's that the job is SO important that I can't help but be humbled daily by my bumblings. Motherhood is not for the faint of heart, it's not for the timid, it is not for the shy but for the brave, loyal, determined soul who can also add nurturing, love and compassion to the mix. Also patience, it goes a long way and is one thing I have found I am in great need of it. Yes, motherhood has exposed all my weaknesses but I hope someday it will help me become the kind of person I want to be: more patient, more kind and nurturing. I love my kids, that's not a problem it's how I show that love in balance with my other duties of discipline and reproving. I enjoy watching my kids experience new things, develop new talents and enjoy life.
I took this photo of my mom while we went out for lunch last Friday. My mom told me everyday she loved me. It is one of the best things she ever did for me. She has been a wonderful mom and a fantastic grandmother. I am grateful to her and hope I can someday merit the love we children feel toward her from my own children. Because to tell you the truth, they probably wonder why we celebrate Mother's Day before Father's Day!
So Happy Mother's Day! Please know that someday all your hard work in loving and nurturing others--whether as their mother or as an, aunt, cousin or friend has made a difference in the world. Besides my mother I have a wonderful sister, mother-in-law, sister-in-laws, friends and even daughters who nurture me as well as my own mother and today I will celebrate their goodness more than my weaknesses!